Are your thoughts holding you back?
Can’t believe we’re nearly one month down in 2015! With a New Year there is always intention to be more positive and to live our life better, more fuller and more happy.
You may ask it’s all well and good wanting these feelings and states of being but how exactly do we bring them into our lives.
It all comes down to what you think. What you think about yourself. What you believe is true about you. What you believe is possible for you. What you think about others and the world around you.
If you’ve never heard of the Law of Attraction – it simply means that you magnetically attract to you the things you think about most often, whether you want them or not.
We’ve approximately 60,000 thoughts each day. You brain works hard to manage and cope with the amount of information it receives. But so too can you. You can decide what thoughts you want to believe and accept about you, other people and the world.
Check in with yourself for a minute and pay attention this week to what you think about.
What do you spend most of your days thinking about? The good stuff? The moments of joy? The little things that made you smile… even if you think you’ve had a bad day? Do you use your thoughts to build your faith, confidence and self belief? Do you use the power of choice to manage and respond (rather than react) to the day to day struggles that come your way?
Or do you think about what’s wrong with you, your partner, your home, your life and the world? It’s so easy to slip into the dark side of life, to focus on what we’ve not done but by doing that we only bring ourselves more darkness, more negativity, more hopelessness and frustration.
What’s the use in berating ourselves, playing small, filling our minds with thoughts that disempower and take us away from the way we truly want to feel? Who really wants to feel bad? I know I don’t!
If you are focusing on what you believe you can’t do, on what’s wrong and any other negative emotion, you only bring more of it into your life. Such thoughts or beliefs limit you and put up unconscious roadblocks on the path to your success and importantly your peace of mind.
The danger arises when we don’t question the validity of these thoughts, the impact that they have on our lives, the lives of the people around us or take steps to change them.
Here’s a simple three step process that will help you begin to change your thoughts to more positive ones.
1. Think of something you want. For example to work for yourself. Notice what thoughts, beliefs or story are you telling yourself about your desire? Maybe you’re thinking you’d never be able to do it, you’re too old, you don’t have the time.
2. Ask yourself is it true? What evidence do you have that tells you it is true?
3. Replace it with a more positive thought you could choose which would help you move forward towards what you want?
Choose your thoughts wisely. Choose thoughts that are in tune with the person you want to be. If you want to be a writer, tell yourself you ARE a writer. Take action and start writing.
Create new positive statements or affirmations for yourself and repeat them as often as you can in your day. Write them down, say them to yourself as often as possible. Notice any resistance. But most importantly decide to think new empowering thoughts about yourself and do something different.
Take action now: Write down 5 new positive empowering statements about yourself. If you believe you are stressed. Your new affirmation is: I am calm or I am willing to become more calm and relaxed. Ask yourself what one step could help you feel more calm and less stressed. And take inspired action.
Here are some examples or positive affirmations:
I am organised. I am calm and relaxed. I am in the process of changing my life. Today is a great day. All is well in my life.
Notice these statements are in the present tense. Your affirmations must be positive and present and personal to you.
Research proves that positive thinkers are not simply being Pollyanna’s; they are problem solvers who try to improve the situation. And if it can’t be altered, they are also more likely to accept that reality and move on rather then dwell on it.
Go on, give it a go for this new week. Write down your new thoughts every day, say them out loud, read them morning and night, remember them on your way to work, just bring them into your conscious awareness as often as possible.
Start seeing a new way of being is possible and one that begins in your thoughts.
Have a great week.