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Is it time you stopped believing crappy thoughts about yourself?

I feel SO lucky to live beside a big beautiful park. It’s like a second home for me as I spend so much time in it!

As I kicked through piles of fallen autumn leaves with my little one this weekend, it got me thinking about how we too can shed stuff that no longer do us any good, that may hold us back from taking the next step in our lives.

If you tried out last week’s blog to notice and become more aware of what exactly you think about, what thoughts or beliefs did you notice that belittle your true self, that keep you small and safe? Any of these pop up for you?

I’m not good enough I’m too old I don’t deserve it It’s too late I’ll never meet someone I can’t do it I’m no good with money What will people think?

The idea is simple for this week. As the trees shed their leaves, what could you consciously prune from your mind that is stopping your from being the person you know you can be?

Once you pick a thought or belief, ask yourself:

1. Who would you BE without this thought, or belief?

2. How would it FEEL not to think it or believe it anymore?

3. What would it do for you to LET IT GO?

Here’s an example of a long held belief I had and how I deal with it when it pops up!

Mine is the super common ‘I’m not good enough’ belief.

When I find myself thinking this thought, first thing I do is flip it so that it becomes I AM good enough. Then I let that sit with me, and I go through a little or a lot of inner wrestling, I decide to choose the thought that makes me strong. I think of all things I HAVE done, I AM doing and I use past experiences I got through to remind me just how strong I really am.

It comes down to a choice, ultimately. Your choice. To believe something that takes your power or gives you power.

I know I feel stronger when I believe I AM good enough. I know I feel powerless when I believe, I’m not good enough.

So it’s an obvious choice now for me when the thought comes back for a wrestle. It no longer wins. I’m like Muhammad Ali in my mind. Boom, knock out.

Back to you, what could you decide is not deserving of your head space anymore so that you can open the way for something that is more positive, powerful and purposeful?

Finally my favourite quote by Marianne Williamson, in A Return to Love:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frighten us.

We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

I’d love to hear any comments you may have and please share with friends who may like this post!